I think many of us confuse "SELF-LOVE" with "SELFISHNESS".
Years ago, I wrote in my prayer journal; "How can I love for others if I don't love and pray for myself first.
We are taught from an early age that it is better to give than receive - which most of the time is.
However, we can't give what we don't have. How can I give yo $10 when I don't even have $5???
Gary Chapman wrote the "Love Languages" books. In them, he talks about how we have to speak other people's love language. My love language is affection and touch. Barrett's (my husband) love language is acts of service. I keep trying to be affectionate with him (like I want him to be with me) and he does nice stuff for me( like what he wants to be done for him).
It is a battle of the wills, and we both end up losing.
We have to love ourselves enough to be able to stand up for what we need.
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